Sunday, January 3, 2010

Can I talk about S-E-X ?

Disclaimer, none of these thoughts have anything to do with me, they are not even my thoughts. They are not how I act, how I feel or what I have ever done. (well sort of heheheh)

Malinda has a very healthy sex life with her husband. She and her husband call her son to tell him to stay away for a while when it they have a "date" . Most of the time her son gets the hint. It is even ok if her son has sex in the house as long as Malinda does not have to hear it. I told her why not punish him like our parents did and make him "do it" in the car or in the bushes? No, Malinda says as long as her son and his girlfriend are quiet about it, she and her husband are ok with it. Once in a while her son and the girlfriend forget and are not quiet. That makes Malinda mad. I would have never shown ANY physical affection to my boyfriend with my parents around. Holding hands at the very most. Kids these days are different I think. Maybe parents are too.

I wonder do you ever feel like S-E-X (as my friend Jeremiaha would say) is a chore? Oh I have to go home and vacuum today, hum drum. Oh I have to go home and have S-E-X tonight. Cover me up when your done honey. Do men ever feel like it is a chore? Maybe they have so much peer pressure they could never admit if they did feel that way. My single friends tell me how they long to be "close" to a man again. As for my married friends, it is about 50/50. Chore/Fun

Speaking of Jeremiaha she can't even say the word sex. She spells it S-E-X.

Our church preaches that you should never use sex with your husband as a tool to get something you want. What if you and your husband have a deal? I will give you this, if you give me that? If your honest about it, what is the problem? The let's make a deal things seems to be ok. Again, I would never do anything like that. I understand the church does not want you to use sex as a controlling tool. Lets say you got into a fight with your husband because he did not do the dishes, so you cut him off for 6 months. It has now become a control issue. I agree that is wrong. Both men and women can use sex as a weapon to control one another.

The bible talks about sex alot. Adultery. bestiality, incest, it has it all, including a loving relationship. The whole book of Song of Soloman is a sex book. XXX rated for its day. This book makes me blush. It shows sex in a good and positive light. Some people try to ignore Song of Songs (or Song of Solomon) or explain it away. The truth is, the book is about sex in a loving relationship, I think is very beautiful and poetic.

This is my favorite chapter 8: 6-7 NIV

" 6 Place me like a seal over your heart,
like a seal on your arm;
for love is as strong as death,
its jealousy unyielding as the grave.
It burns like blazing fire, like a mighty flame.

7 Many waters cannot quench love;
rivers cannot wash it away.
If one were to give
all the wealth of his house for love,
it would be utterly scorned.

The King James says it this way

6 Set me as a seal upon thine heart, as a seal upon thine arm: for love is strong as death; jealousy is cruel as the grave: the coals thereof are coals of fire, which hath a most vehement flame.

7Many waters cannot quench love, neither can the floods drown it: if a man would give all the substance of his house for love, it would utterly be contemned.

1 comment:

Mountain Momma said...

The chore thing:
When we were doing high school youth group, Hubby & I lead a session on Sex and the Christian Teenager. We were showing them what the Bible says, talking about what pressures they may feel, what they think, what they can do if they've already done something they are ashamed of, etc. They really opened up to Hubby & I. Maybe it's because we weren't preachy, maybe it's because they all know that our teenage son was 5 when we got married the first time, so we're not preaching AT them, we've been in the same boat as many of them.
One of the Bible verses talks about sex with your husband being a wife's "duty". One of the boys really thought this was funny, that sex would be a "duty" and it became a hot topic. And of course, me being a smart a&& said "Oh yes, it's one of the wifely duties: do the dishes, do the laundry, do your husband..."
I thought the kids would all pee their pants! They were laughing hysterically!
When you mentioned it being a "chore" brought all that flooding back to me and made me smile again!