Are You to Old to Get Your Nose Peirced? Here is Some Advice

OK, I will blame it on my foster sister, It was her fault because she agreed do go along with me and get her nosed pierced.  So after thinking about piercing my nose for years, I finally did it!

You might be saying to yourself, what is a grandmother doing piercing her nose? Your to old for that....
You are only as old as you feel, and I don't feel nearly as old as I am.

I decided not to mention my nose piercing to most of my friends and co workers. I was quite disappointed in the reaction when they saw it. This is what they said, Did you get your nose pierced? yes, I thought you always had your nose pierced and I just had not noticed before, it looks good.

Dang it!!! No shock and awe.

Here is some advice if you are thinking of getting your nose pierced and you are a middle aged or older woman.

1. Do not watch youtube videos about botched nose piercing before you go.
2. Do not go to the mall and get your nose pierced with an inexperienced teenager and a piercing gun.
3. Find one of your friends who has adult children with multiple peircing's and ask where they go to get pierced. 
4. Make sure the post is" implant grade" surgical steel.
5. Take a friend or a loved one for moral support. Not only that, it can be kind of scary going into a tattoo/piercing parlor alone.
6. Once your nose is pierced DO NOT use anything to clean it except Dial soap or saline solution rinse (That is what the piercer told me.)
7. Make sure the "parlor" is clean and tidy and all the equipment is clean, new and/ or autoclaved
8. Make sure the piercer wears disposable gloves.
9. Decide before you go if you want the right side or left side pierced. 
10. Some say to get your nose pierced on the opposite side of the part in your hair.
11. If you are squeamish, do not watch someone else get their nose pierced. 
12. Buy a few boxes of circle band-aides. Put a circle band aid on your nose ring before you go to bed, so you don't accidentally scratch your nose at night.  I put a new one on in the morning before applying make up. 
13. It is important that you clean your new piercing after showering.  My piercer said that hair conditioner tends to build up on the post. 
14. Resist temptation! Do NOT FUSS with your new nose ring while it is healing!

Q & A

• How much does it cost? In my foster sisters city it cost  $50.00 + a tip. That included your choice of L shaped noise ring with a cubic zirconia.  They had many colors to choose from.
• How do they pierce your nose? This was my experience, with a jumbo embroidery needle (hehe.) First he cleaned my nose with rubbing alcohol. next he stuck a hard plastic clear tube up my nose and push the embroidery needle through the side of my nostril (the needle came out the bottom of the tube) at the same time putting the post in. He was quick!
• Why do the piercers ware a plastic apron? Sorry this is gross... Because some people are "squirter's"- they squirt blood when their nose is getting pierced. Thankfully neither me, or my foster sister were "squirter's"
• Does it hurt? On a scale of 1 to 10, 10 being excruciating pain, I would say 1.5, my foster sister may say 2.5, she is more sensitive than I am. It was a little tender for a few days.
• Can you still blow your nose/sneeze? yes.
• What shape is the nose ring post? Mine is L shaped. 

Therefore, if you are over 40 years old and wanting to get your nosed pierced I say GO FOR IT!

Question of the Day

A few weeks ago a dear friend went to a how to build your relationship with your spouse workshop. One of the exercises intrigued me. The group had to go to an unfamiliar restaurant and order off the menu for their spouse. NO TALKING or giving hints. She was shocked to see many people could not order for their spouse. Some had been married 25 years or more.

I love this exercise. I have been ordering for my gig a low for many years. That is easy, could he order for me? Yes. But he would be worried that he is not getting it right. He knows the things I will not eat. Ox tail for one.

This carries over to could I have a birthday party for my dear friends and get it right? I think so.

Daliah - I would call it "Downton Abbey".  There would be a dress code men in ties women in dresses. Fine china, silver and cloth napkins. We would have H'orderves served on a sliver platter. There would be wine, champaign  cheese and chocolate. The house would have beautiful roses and flower throughout.  All her family and her close friends would be there.  She would also like to have a private family party where they all go to an exotic location together and just have family time.  Gifts, yes.

Jasmin - All American - Hamburgers, French fries and a movie with close friends, separate party with family. Gift of time is the biggest gift for Jasmin. Sometimes she would not like to have a party at all.

Fuchsia - City Girl - Nothing is better than being in the big city with friends and her daughter.  I would call it a Progressive City dinner. Walk or drive all over the city eat at several different types of foodie type spots. She wants to share her experience and make a foodie memory. Gifts yes

Elijah - Traditional - Meat & potatoes, cake or cupcakes, blow out the candles. Maybe go to movies or play bocce ball. Sometime Elijah would rather not have a party at all. Gifts yes.

Could you order off the menu for your spouse or loved one? Could you plan a party for your close friends and know what they want?

I hope my friends who read this will tell me if I am accurate. How well do I know my friends? I will find out!

Dead Man In the Parking Lot

The other day I was coming out of a restaurant, it was lunch time.  I noticed a small commotion in the parking lot, as I got closer I saw a man on the ground who appeared to be dead, another man on top of him was giving him chest compressions. One big haired lady was on the phone talking to 911, another lady was standing there. I said I know CPR can I help? The big haired lady on the phone said NO mouth to Mouth, just compressions. What? Is he breathing? NO. 911 is saying you don't need to do mouth to mouth anymore. Ok. I said Sir do you want me to help with chest compressions? No reply from the man working so hard to save a strangers life.

So I just stood there. I did not know what to do. Every once in a while the dead man would gurgle. I thought to myself, death rattle. His lips were turning blue. His eyes were fixated. Poor soul. The other lady who was standing next to me said there was a woman with a green shirt on with the dead man, she was screaming DON'T TOUCH HIM. She had disappeared.

Knowing how exuberant I am when I do chest compressions, I would break his ribs. I have been told by many instructors I am a rib breaker. It made me second guess if I wanted to jump in and help. All I could think about was lawsuits (from the green shirt lady)  I did nothing  to help. How utterly disgusting is that?

Just about that time a young 20 something lady was briskly walking by, she looks down and screams THATS MY DAD! THATS MY DAD, we were suppose to meet here for lunch! She bends down and and screams for her dad to "come back. " I felt really bad for 20 something. Her dad was dead. Soon after another young woman with a little baby shows up. Apparently she was a sister to 20 something.  Sister with a baby was waiting inside, her dad had called to say he was in the parking lot. When he did not come in she came out and found us. Then both sisters started screaming and hitting there dad trying to get him to "wake up for the baby" The man was still doing chest compressions and the big haired lady was on the phone with 911

I just stood there thinking how very sad this is. I wondered if the man was saved? He had no idea he was going to die that day in the parking lot, all he knew was he was going to have lunch with his two daughters and grandchild.

The dead man gurgled again. That made both the daughters think he was breathing. The man duing chest compressions stopped, looked and listened. Nothing, he resumed chest compressions.

What was taking the ambulance so long?

Finally after what seemed like an eternity the firefighters and ambulance showed up. It seemed as though they were in slow motions, jaded, another dead guy to deal with. We all backed away and watched as the first responders as they started ventilating the man, cut his shirt off and gave him electrical shocks.

When the dead man would jump because of the shocks the daughters thought it was a good sign. I could see his spirit was gone. The first responders could see it as well I am sure. They tried to revive the dead man for a long time with no avail. They loaded the dead man into the ambulance and told the sisters they were going to the hospital down the street.

I asked the sisters if I could drive them to the hospital? no thank you. They said we will be ok.  The sister with the baby was on the phone. I could overhear her telling someone that her dad was "unconscious." Just about that time the lady with the green shirt showed up again. She started talking to the sister with the baby. I walked over to 20 something and said I would pray for her and her family. She plainly said Thank you. This lead me to believe she was not a Christian. The ambulance and the sisters went to the hospital

The next thing I know I am in a group hug with the man doing chest compressions and the lady who was standing next to me. The man doing chest compression was out of breath and was shaking. He said I hope the man lives, but I don't think he will. I told the man that gave chest compressions he gave it a vaunt effort. We held on to each other for a long time. Then we all went our separate ways.

 I hope and pray and believe that God can turn all bad things to good some how. This was also a good reminder to spread the Gospel as we never know what is going to happen on our way to lunch.

Hard to Say Good Bye

MaMa Jane died today at 2:09. 

MaMa Jane

This is very hard to write. MaMa Jane is dying. I am thankful I have have the chance to tell her that  I love her, and tell her she was a very good mom.

MaMa Jane loved me and I knew it. Even during my most reckless and rebellious times. She has alway been kind and a great role model.

To see most all my foster family at the hospital  is a testament to what a good mother and grandmother she has been.

I am thankful even during these very difficult times that I can hang out with my foster family.

Just a few days go before she ended up in the hospital we were talking about coloring my hair. I said I was not sure if I wanted to depending on the bottle again. Mama Jane  encourage me to color my hair. So I asked her when I got to the hospital what color I should put in my hair. She reached up and touched my hair and said red.

Most likely the next time you see me I will have red hair.

On Friday even though she was in ICU she was still worried about who had enough to eat or who was hungry. She wanted to make sure everyone had enough sleep. My foster brother and foster nephew said MaMa Jane "light" up when I walked into the room.

Earlier today MaMa Jane said PaPa was there to get her. But MaMa Jane said that PaPa was "just going to have to wait"

This is some segments of what I wrote about MaMa Jane 3 years ago.

There are some people on this earth who should never be a mother and some people who should be everyones mom. I would nominate MaMa Jane to be everyones mom. MaMa Jane just knows how to love kids. She knows how to make them feel like they are special and that every child has value.

MaMa Jane took me in and treated me like one of her own. She stuck by me even when times were rough.

She was there for me before my mother died and after. She loved me and cared for me and fed me. Gave me a safe place to live. She showed me that adults can and should have fun.

Jane was multi faceted cool. Christmas time at my foster family's was filled with joy . There was so much chaos with so many kids. MaMa Jane always had a stocking filled with goodies and presents for me. She bought us kids the latest toys that were popular at the time. One year she bought me a “Simon.” I loved that toy.

Another thing that made MaMaJane so cool was that she listened to KFRC (pop rock) with us. She knew all the singers and knew the words to all the popular songs. 

Every one knows moms are not supposed to curse. The first time me and my foster sister heard her say sh*t we ran. She was not mad at us kids, she was mad at the check book.

MaMa Jane made us kids really good food to eat. Some of my favorites were fried Bologna, chicken sandwiches from a crock pot, corn meal mush in a loaf, pancakes that were as big as the frying pan, a pasta and ground beef dish that she called Marzettie. She would make this really good salad, that has a cheesy dressing. YUMMY! She let us eat candy and potato chips. She made the best homemade chocolate chip cookies. Me and My foster sister loved to eat raw cookie dough. MaMa Jane would tell us eating raw cookie dough would give us worms, hoping to keep us out of the mixing bowl. The thought of worms never slowed us down. We would still get our fingers in the batter and lick the spoon. I told my kids they would get worms if they ate raw cookie dough. It never stopped them either.

If anyone ever complained about me and my foster sister doing something wrong she would say “Oh no my girls would never do anything like that". I remember how good she made me feel, she stuck up for me even though I really didn’t deserve it. MaMa Jane said good things about me, even when other people were not. 

I know that the Angels are there waiting Mama Jane to take you home. Remember no more pain, no more suffering. You will be free.

Baby Quilt Finnished

Here is the finished baby quilt. 

Made by me, the soon to be Reckless grandma.

As you can see I changed the binding color. I love the blue Minky on the back!

I am so happy with it. 

Thank you Dahlia for encouraging me and helping me.

The Weather Today

Good news for former kgo listeners, Weather reporter Lloyd Lindsay Young has been added to KKSF 910 AM!
HELLOOOOOO Lloyd Lindsay Young! We missed you! Welcome back!